“All I’m saying is simply this, that all life is interrelated, that somehow we’re caught in an inescapable network of mutuality tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly. For some strange reason, I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. You can never be what you ought to be until I am what I ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.” – Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.
I originally planned a whole post on Reverend King and how we could honor him at home but I’m in Arizona, so the tragic events that occurred on January 8th hit too close to ignore. Just south of us hell had opened up in a neighborhood grocery store and life became another shade more sinister. All I could do was hold my daughter. Seeing other parents and their reactions to the event normalized my feelings of shear horror and sadness. Our most horrendous fears displayed for all to see. So I thought Reverend King would appreciate the focus taken off him this one time and instead focusing on his idea of interconnected relationships especially relating to families. When life feels too crazy to bare, here are some popular ideas for bringing peace into the home and keeping our family networks solid.
1. Follow your child’s lead and laugh, a lot. Holistically it’s good for your health at a physical, spiritual and mental level.
2. Never go to bed angry. It’s okay to disagree and to have a discussion which needs to continue into the next day, but never go to sleep with hurtful words as the last thing a child hears.
3. Embrace tranquility. Sometimes even though silence is golden we feel the need to fill it up with useless words. Take time and enjoy silence with your little ones.
4. Temper the bad with more good. For every criticism, a child should receive many more compliments. No formula is needed because parents have a knack for knowing exactly when they cross the line into Nagville.
5. Eat with each other. Life is busy and chaotic, but take at least one meal during the day to enjoy one another. Not only does it provide an opportunity to learn from one another, but it also reconnects us to each other and solidifies our relationships. It makes us feel like we’re apart of something bigger than just ourselves.
6. Enjoy life and all its simplicity. It’s never about riches and popularity but what memories we will leave behind. When we look at interconnectedness in families, memories are the fuel that keep us going our loved ones are no longer there to hold our hand.